Scattering Ashes - A Guide to the Practicalities

The scattering of ashes is a meaningful way to honour your loved one's memory. Often when a death and subsequent funeral have taken place it can take a good while to process. My advice here is do not feel rushed and do not feel you have to scatter them at all. It could be that you plan on just being private and alone or you may want to invtite family and friends.

Many families take years to consider the perfect spot. Scattering or burying ashes can help with the healing process. I am here to help you plan or create a ceremony and offer advice. Most importantly I am here to listen to your emotions and feelings.

Here are some top tips to consider when planning this:

Choose a Meaningful Location:

Select a place that held significance to your loved one. This could be a favourite park, beach, mountain, or even a garden.

Can you take ashes on a plane?   

Yes, you can generally take cremation ashes on a plane, but there are some importaint guidelines and regulations to follow:

1. Container requirements: The ashes should be in a container that can be scanned by the X-ray machine. The container should not be made of materials such as lead, metal or dense materials that could block the X-ray and make it difficult for security to see inside. I recommend using a container that is made of wood, bio degradable plastuc or non metallic materials.

2. Documentation: It's best to carry a copy if the death certificate and cremation certificate. Some airlines may require this for the transportation of ashes.

3. You are alloswed to carry on and also store in checked in baggage. Carry on is recommended to ensure they are handled carefully.

   
   

Plan the Ceremony:

Decide if you want a formal ceremony or a more intimate, personal moment. You might include readings, prayers or music that your loved one enjoyed.

Perhaps you want to bring in the elements of nature.

I can guide you in planning this and even be there on the day to either conduct a ceremony or hold space for you.

Understand Local Laws and Regulations: - Check local regulations, as scattering ashes in some areas may require permits or have specific restrictions. This is especially true for public parks, beaches, or bodies of water. Do not hesitate to reach out to me, I can help advise on this.

Consider the Weather:

Pay attention to the weather, particularly the wind direction. Scattering ashes on a windy day can cause them to blow back towards the group. Aim to scatter them downwind. Alternatively you can scatter ashes in a circle on the ground and step in to the middle to say goodbye.

Use a Scattering Tube:

A scattering tube can make the process easier and more controlled, especially in windy conditions. Your funeral director can help you with this when you discuss collecting the ashes.

Ashes stick to skin and clothes: - Less than ideal! So be preapared and take water and a towel incase of this scenario. Ashes are actually more like grains and gravel than ash. Don't go higher than waist hight as they can blow up in faces if they catch the wind.

Invite Family and Friends: - Consider inviting close friends and family to share in the moment. This can be a time of reflection and support. But equally do not feel afraid to scatter ashes alone. You can still incorporate rituals solo. I can help you with this by offering suggestions.

Keep a Portion of the Ashes: - You might want to keep a small portion of the ashes in a memorial urn, piece of jewelry, or keepsake for personal remembrance. There are some great websites to give you inspiration www.scattering-ashes.co.uk is just one of them. www.heavenlystarsfireworks.com offers a service where ashes are out in to a firework.

Consider Biodegradable Options: - Use biodegradable urns if scattering in water. These urns float briefly before sinking and releasing the ashes, which can be a meaningful way to honor the earth. Explore www.urnsforashes.co.uk

Check for Safety Concerns: - If scattering from a boat or plane, consult with professionals to ensure safety and compliance with laws. I can help you with this.

Be Prepared for Emotional Releases: - Scattering ashes is an emotional experience. Prepare for a range of emotions not only from yourself but from those attending. Do take tissues.

Leave No Trace: - After scattering, be sure to clean up any items like flowers, ribbons, or biodegradable urn pieces, to leave the location as you found it. Taking these steps can help ensure the scattering of ashes is a respectful and meaningful tribute to your loved one.